Making Decisions for YOU

Helllllo to my beautiful queens! So I understand that we are royalty but shit, it's hard living this life. We are all at the age where it's time to make some heavy and difficult decisions. It's also time to transition away from caring about what people think. Some care more than others but at the end of day, everyone typically considers how we will be viewed or judged by everyone else. If you struggle with this, I highly encourage you to work towards not fully caring what people think and think about what is best for yourself. This is the time to make decisions strictly off your own life, happiness and desires.

It has come to the point in our lives where we are truly trying to figure out our path in life. For most of us, our first big decision we made was picking a college or choosing another path . That decision was hard because it was difficult to not be influenced by others, though at the end of the day, it was our choice to pick where we felt like we fit the best. We are now in school, working a career or still figuring it out. Though on a daily basis our hardest decision is usually picking the prime nap time, it's a millennial thing really. But let's get back to the point. We are at this weird age where we are like half children and half adults. Our decisions should be made with intentions of bettering our future. At the end of the day you should be focused with decisions that make you truly happy and that will make you the best YOU that you can be.

There will always be a "best" decision and that's up to you to decide. At the end of the day you are the one living your own life, no one else. Sometimes decisions can be hard and people look for guidance, which is totally okay. But, don't let others MAKE or ultimately INFLUENCE your decision. You have the freedom and power to do whatever you want with your life and you just better do the damn thing for yourself!

The ultimate goal is growth. When you are making decisions you want to work hard to be better every single day. I am also here to tell you that it's okay to be selfish sometimes. When it comes to being in charge if your life, be selfish. Work toward your goals, your dreams and ambitions. Though while being "selfish", you should also remain humble. It's all about finding a perfect balance of being grateful for the blessings you have and having ambition to work for the things you want as you continue on in life. You want to surround yourself with people, opportunities and ideas that allow you to flourish.

I know one of the most difficult decisions people deal with is whether they should keep certain people in their lives or not. I am a huge, huge, HUGE advocate for communication. If you are having any issues with someone then you have to talk them out. I don't care how uncomfortable and challenging it may be but you won't succeed in life if you can't learn to effectively communicate. If the people you spend your time with are not helping you grow then you have to let them go. Of course it's not as easy as it sounds. I understand and know what it is like to have a lot of time and energy invested into someone. It took me almost 4-6 months to decide that I wanted to end my last relationship. I invested 2 years but had to realize what was worth my time and make decisions that bettered my future. He was a great guy but not for me so I took the initiative to better myself. So honey, if you have a man, a girl, a best friend or anyone else who is tearing you down, not contributing to your growth, not showing you support and not pushing you to be a better person, then YOU HAVE TO THROW THE WHOLE BITCH AWAY. YOU JUST BETTER CANCEL THAT NEGATIVITY.

Now, I also understand that not everyone has an aggressive personality like me and I'm not saying you should. Honestly if everyone had a similar personality like me, we would live in a dangerous place because ya girl is nuts. Anyway, when people are learning to take charge it's all about taking baby steps. The first step is learning to speak up for yourself. Everyone should be aware of their worth. You are all worth respect and deserve to live the life you want. I believe everyone should have full confidence in themselves and work towards building that up every day. When you are more confident in yourself, you will base your decisions off of that.

In conclusion I want to reiterate that this is YOUR life and no one else is going to live it. If you are making a decision that involved someone else, you should always include them but make sure that you make the best decision for yourself and your future at the end of the day. A big example of this is considering your significant other. When making major decisions for yourself that could effect them, always consider their feelings but focus on the best option for your life and if it's true love then you will receive the support you need. I encourage you to always focus on living your best life. Yeah, that's cheesy but your decisions determine how your life is going to play out. Also, there's no way to avoid bad decisions, they happen from time to time but it's up to you to figure out how you are going to learn and grow from them. When it comes to what people think, fuck it. I have learned that people will always talk shit and judge others no matter what, it sucks but it happens. Just know at the end of the day, those people aren't contributing to your better life. I hope all my queens know that they are worth more than they can imagine. Go live a full and happy life, you all deserve it.